BDSM techniques can brighten sex, give you new sensations and strengthen your relationship with your partner. Where to start? We bring to your attention practical advice on how to bring elements of BDSM games into the intimate life of a couple.
Before trying BDSM
BDSM is not something that you can easily do with a couple of beers. It is important to understand that you really want this and are ready to learn it. Then discuss with your partner what he likes and dislikes. While practicing BDSM, ask him questions: “How do you feel when I do this?”
The next step in preparing for BDSM is to understand the sensations that appear with this or that type of “punishment”. Also, you should try different things outside of the sex play first so that you don’t get tangled up in bondage, for example. You also need to learn to be tough but sexy.
BDSM for beginners: first steps
If you are in a relationship and want to try BDSM, start by discussing this fantasy with your partner. Tell your lover about BDSM techniques and scenarios that you want to experience in bed. Watching videos on luxbondage.com will help you. This conversation can be a prelude to the first game.
Together choose one technique for the first BDSM session (see below). Take your time. If you increase the intensity of the sexual play gradually, the partner will not suffer. A scale of 1 to 10 is suitable for assessing sensations, where 1 is gentle and 10 is maximum. It’s like eating here – it’s better to finish and wish for more than kill your appetite forever. After sex, discuss what you liked and what else you can work on.
First of all, we recommend remembering the three main principles of BDSM: safety, voluntariness, rationality. Make sure your partner is mentally and physically ready to experiment.
